I live in Dallas Texas, and it seems like every other vehicle I see in my daily driving routine is a truck and every other truck is pulling something. A loaded down trailer, a piece of machinery or even another truck! It helped me think that we all drag around stuff behind us. Sometimes I get so focused on what I'm dragging around behind me, so attached to sameness, so glued to the rearview mirror to ensure my trailer hasn't lost its cargo I lose perspective that the trailer is supposed to make things easier, more productive and more effective rather than be a burden. So every once in a while I take an inventory of what's on my trailer. Is my cargo positioned on the trailer so it is balanced, does the hitch match the connection, have I stacked things too high, is everything on the trailer useful, how much of a load can it take, how much load can I pull, and even maybe is it legal? All great questions and the analogy fits lots of stuff, but in terms of relationships, ("to a hammer everything looks like a nail") we should all take a look at our relationship cargo and if the answers to these questions are predominately negative or could use a shift for the better, start with better communication. Everyone wants to be heard, understood and appreciated.